Are You In The Wrong Job? A Five Question Quiz

By Mary Miller

1. Are you trying to get answers from Google?

2. Have you watched Office Space more times than you’d like to admit?

3. Do Sunday nights make you break out in a cold sweat?

4. Are you no longer able to manage your stress like you once could?

5. Do you often escape into the bathroom during a meeting to scream, cry, or punch something due to frustration?

If you answered yes to the majority of these questions, then you are probably in the wrong job. Your job fits you as well as your 5 year old’s sweater. The problem is that it’s a really well-paying job, and you have no idea what you’d do instead.

That is why…you’re still there…with a reoccurring case of the “Mundays.” But your grip on the ladder is starting to fail you and you don’t know how much longer you can hang on.

The good news is that you’re the architect of your own life. Yes – your life. This isn’t just about your career; it’s about your life.

Here’s what you can do about it.

Stop to think about what is causing your stress? Look for your triggers

• Write down why this is the “job from hell” – be specific. What doesn’t fit (i.e. too many details, no time to think etc)?

• Now take that and turn each negative statement into a positive one (i.e. I get to work on one project at a time, I have time to think & plan – it’s part of my job)

• Which parts of your job do you like?

• When did you stop liking your job?

• Now for the hard one…does part of the loathing you have for your job come from your attitude? If so, how?

Don’t be like the 52.3% of Americans who are unhappy with their jobs (2014, Conference Board, the New York-based nonprofit research group). Chose to do something about it! To do something about it NOW click here.

Planning: 7 Ways To Ensure This Will Be A GREAT Year

By Mary Miller

Don’t you love the New Year? You get to start over. Your hope is renewed. If you do, you’re not alone. Many people love this time of year, yet few enjoy planning for it…

Planning can be overwhelming. There are 52 weeks, 365 days and 8,760 hours to plan for. Yikes!

I, too, have wrestled with planning. Ourselves, friends, and experts often add to the issue with complex planning tools. Then add to that mix other unknowns such as: you may not have a vision, you may not know what you want to do, you may not know how to make a change or start something new, etc.

I’ve learned to think of dreams as a “destination,” and think of planning as a “tool for success.” This year is just a part of your journey … you just need to take one step … at … a … time …

Maybe this year is the year you define your dreams, maybe it’s the year you execute them, or maybe it’s a year of exploration into yourself to rediscover who you are.

Your dreams are as unique as you are. It’s YOUR journey … no two journeys are exactly alike … your individuality matters.

Okay, so wherever you are in your journey, you are about to embark on the trip of a lifetime. Humor me for a moment – look in the mirror and say to yourself “Planning is easy and fun!” Okay, got it?

Now work through these 7 tips below.

1. Whoa – Not So fast!

Before you try to jump into this New Year – reflect on last year. What was good? What was bad? What did you learn? What would you change?

2. Define Your Destination.

Write down one reason why you are looking forward to this year? Only one. This will give you focus.

3. Take a Step.

What is a single step that will take you in the direction of the destination you defined in #2?

4. Set Your GPS.

Set a few top level goals related to your destination. These are just additional steps to get you to where you want to go.

5. Check Where You’re Headed.

Once you have taken the first few steps, check to make sure you’re headed in the direction of your destination. Have you deviated too much and gotten off track? Intentional deviations and changes are all good – plans can change. But unintentional deviations are often caused my distractions, shiny objects, and procrastination.

6. Don’t travel alone.

Life is so much better with travel companions. Share your excitement for 2015 with your close friends; tell them what your destination is. Hire a coach or ask a good friend to be an accountability partner. This is helpful for motivation and provides a reality check for when you get off course.

7. Remember: It’s Your Journey.

Life doesn’t happen to you. You construct it and reconstruct it after the storms. You’re in control of YOU. So if you are really looking forward to 2015 because of your destination – there is no reason why you can’t take steps towards it. That, my friend, is up to you.

How does your new year feel now?

How To Reset Your Path In Life

By Cierra Savatgy-King

I was going to be a famous singer, make $1 million by 26 years old, and use that $1 million dollars to build a resort like Atlantis Resort where people could experience ultimate fun. This was my dream that started when I was about 8. Just to be clear, Atlantis actually cost $800 million to build. I point this out because I was delusional. Sure, an 8 year old can be delusional. Heck, a 20 year old can be. But when I started nearing 26, I realized I had kept some of those delusions my entire life and didn’t allow the dream to grow.

Because so much of that dream had real passion, all of it stayed with me my entire life. It couldn’t change. I would show all those naysayers: I am going to do it if it kills me. And it kind of did: my spirit anyways.

I was tirelessly working towards a dream that I hadn’t fully formed – as an adult self. I was spinning my wheels for something that wasn’t making me happy.

I recognized this as fear. Just conquer the fear. Push through. You’ll love it when you get there.

Even as I put pen to paper, there’s something in the back of my head saying, “but you love singing so much!” I do. But a dream should never be put in a box.

I was starting to see something extremely terrifying: The “dream box” that had defined me my entire life wasn’t actually what I wanted. It rocked my world.

One day I woke up and it just hit me: I needed to figure out what my dream was again. Sounds great! How in the world does one do that?

I decided this would be my new focus: Figure it out. But I needed to shake things up. Because I didn’t know what that even looked like, I had to change my patterns and get outside of routines and bad habits to (hopefully) see more clearly. I needed a reset button.

I had read about others going through rough patches and how they picked up, quit their jobs and traveled the world – backpacking across Europe and meeting unique strangers over drinks at the hostel. I really like nice linens and pillows. This wouldn’t work for me. But they were onto something.

My man and I packed up our life, put it in a storage unit, and started living in vacation rentals in the town we lived to get a different perspective for 3 months, changing homes every few weeks.  This was something manageable. I could do this.

Fast forward to over 1 year and 18 houses later, this ended up being a game changer. Small things were making a monumental change: How I drove home, where I parked my car, which restaurants I went to, where I took my daily walks. I wasn’t able to be on autopilot. It was making me jump outside of my patterns. The most amazing thing started happening: I began noticing the leaves in the trees and the brilliantly blue skies. I also started seeing what makes me happy, all the way down to my core.

I jumped outside of my comfort zone, which led me to 3 inspiring entrepreneurs I met while sailing in Croatia. These women are now my partners in crime for Reset Retreat, a women’s wellness and adventure retreat in Belize, with a focus on resetting your path.

Through this, I realized my dream – all along – has been to build incredible experiences for people that make them happy. As long as I’m doing that, I’m on the right track.

This is who I am. This is why I am here today with Reset Retreat.

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3 Things That Stop You From Starting Your Own Business

By Tom Rubens

What was your dream as a child? Maybe it included owning your own business. For many people, it does. If you are one of those people, what has been holding you back? Why haven’t you acted yet? I have coached many entrepreneurs, and I’ve seen several themes emerge. I would like to share the top three “obstacles” that most people let stop them from venturing out on their own:

1. Fear

Fear is frequently the first demon that rises up to stop us in our tracks on the way to our dreams. For some of you, the fear of failure is overwhelming … almost paralyzing. You are so busy replaying the story in your head about how you can’t afford to fail, but then that leaves you stuck with the belief that failing at something makes you a ‘failure’.

Not true.

The truth is that not reaching outside your comfort zone might be the surest guarantee of failure. Ironically, the fear of success is sometimes even more powerful than the fear of failure. Perhaps you are tied to your current identity as someone who just got dealt a bad hand in life. That’s who you are and how you show up in the world. Success would really screw that whole story up for you, wouldn’t it? If you actually pulled yourself up and succeeded – on your own – you’d have to change your whole belief system. You’d have to become someone with whom you are totally unfamiliar.

2. Not Having the Money

This is the most commonly stated reason that most entrepreneurs give when they face the challenge of starting their own business. I’m not buying that. Fear, lack of self-belief, and the absence of structure, strategy, and clear intention keep more potential success stories on the sidelines than lack of money ever could.

3. Lack of Self-Confidence

Of course, this is tied to your self-belief. It is very difficult to fundamentally change what you believe to be true about yourself, and also how you think the world works. Negative self-image – whether it comes from your weight, your looks, your current financial situation, your kids, or any other de-energizing stories you tell yourself, is a tough hole to crawl out of.

Even if you are reasonably confident in yourself and willing to take a chance on your entrepreneurial dream, if you don’t have a structure in place to implement the strategies needed to be successful in your chosen field, you are going to struggle mightily to make your business work. If you come from a work environment where strategic planning and organization were not part of your skill set, you will need to acquire those skills if you want to truly rise above your competition.

So, let me ask you a question. How would it feel if you had the tools to overcome your fear of failure? Or success? What if you were able to walk arm-in-arm with courage, towards just the things you used to fear the most?

If you could adjust your self image, so that you actually loved and admired all the things that made you uniquely you, do you think success would be a bit easier to access and maintain? Yes. It would.

Do you think that if you had a clear picture of what a successful business looked like, and an easily implementable structure that you could follow to keep your business running smoothly, that you could move far beyond your current state of financial and personal affairs?

I’ve given you a little taste today of what you need to work on to achieve greater success in your business and your life. These are some of the problems I solve for my coaching clients on a regular basis. Business is business, and the skills you need to succeed are the same whether you are baking cookies, manufacturing semiconductors, or selling dietary supplements.

Are you ready to step up your game? Let’s go.

 

What Color IS Your Parachute?

If you have EVER been confused about what career path to choose, you very well may have read “What Color Is My Parachute” by Richard Bolles.

It is considered the Bible for folks looking for a job or seeking to change careers, and it was first published back in late 1970!

At that point, it was just a self-published book, but since 1972 it has been published by Ten Speed Press. And it isn’t just the same book as it was back in those days, Richard Bolles significantly updates and even rewrites it every year to take into account the current job situation.

So even if you bought a copy several years ago, the version that is out there today will be very different. Many people buy a copy every year or two, just to be current with the job market and opportunities.

Far more than just a “job hunting guide,” Parachute leads you in a self-exploration journey which can be a worthwhile exercise even if you are NOT in the market for a new job. It is worth checking out the book just in order to do the Flower Exercise!

Do you think employers are sitting out there waiting for the next resume to arrive in order to fill a vacancy?

Not so much. Maybe as a last resort…

Most of the time they are far more likely to hire from within, or someone that they have experience with either as a contractor, an intern, or a temporary worker.

This is just one of the many useful tips about job seeking that Bolles shares in his timeless book.

There are other books out there to help you to help you find a job, but there are none that are so complete as What Color Is My Parachute?

Oh – and as of March of this year – 2013 – there is also a tablet edition that will allow you to do the Flower Exercise with no handwriting involved!  It is meant to be a supplement to the book, not a replacement for it.