By Tom Rubens
Do you feel like there is a giant inside you just itching to come out? Like you were meant to do something really big, but for some reason you are stuck playing small? This comes up more frequently in my coaching than you may realize.
There is no one right way to deal with this issue, but there are some critical questions to ask yourself as you work to play as big as you possibly can.
1. What’s stopping you? This question needs some very focused and honest attention … and it leads to more questions.
2. Do you have any limiting beliefs that are keeping you from reaching for the highest fruit in your life?
3. Be honest with yourself here … are there any fears you have that are holding you back?
4. Do you fear failure? What does failure mean to you? How do you define it?
5. Here’s one that may catch you off guard … are you afraid of success?
6. What would you your life look like if you were to be truly successful?
7. Are you willing to be the person you need to be to welcome success into your life?
There are no easy answers here, but simply honoring yourself by spending some quiet time alone to breathe into the questions, will help you begin the process of becoming the best possible version of yourself.
How does this sound to you? Are you willing to treat yourself to the gift of being the biggest you you can possibly be? I hope so….
Here’s another issue that one of my clients has been dealing with recently. Is there a conflict between your spiritual values and your financial ambitions? This can be a crippling problem, and it is an interesting issue that can sometimes manifest as a time management problem.
Let me tell you what I mean by that. Over 20 years ago, I read a book by Charles Hobbs, called Time Power. Hobbs was way ahead of the curve on this one. In fact, I don’t think I had ever even heard the term time management, before reading his book. But it really resonated with me, and I ended up buying a copy for my entire staff. It was out of print for a long time, but I think it just came back out, so you might be able to pick up a copy. Hobbs introduced the notion that the foundation of time management, was our unifying principles – our highest priorities in life. Benjamin Franklin called them his thirteen virtues. You can call them whatever you want, the number and name of this list are unimportant. This list is the foundation upon which your legacy will be built. Give it the attention it deserves. That you deserve. Every day.
The hard part is not writing your unifying principles – it is living them. Living in conflict with these truths will prove to be the greatest time waster of all.
Until next time, Live Accountably.
