Discover The Power Of Vulnerability

By Natalie Jenkins

Vulnerability is _________?

Did you fill in the blank with a positive or negative word? Statistically most of you chose a negative word. Why? Why is being vulnerable considered negative? A weakness to be shamed and feared?

If you’re like me, even mentioning the word makes you shudder and scowl.

Vulnerable: capable of being physically or emotionally wounded, open to attack or damage, assailable

Ah! No wonder we are shivering in our stilettos! What a terrible and scary definition. Well, I’ve had enough of that… let’s take “vulnerable” back!

The way I see it, being vulnerable is amazing. It is necessary to live a joyous, spectacular and full life. Every day I try to become more vulnerable.

As written in Daring Greatly, “love is an intense form of vulnerability.” So how can we be open to love if we are not capable of being vulnerable?

We are not the only ones talking about vulnerability. A TED Talk entitled “The Power of Vulnerability” had over 17 million views. 17 million!!! Brene Brown has amassed a wealth of knowledge and research on the subject, and I encourage you to reflect on her words of wisdom.

Explore being vulnerable and remember to:

  • Have the courage to be imperfect
  • Be compassionate with yourself
  • Understand that what makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful
  • Learn that vulnerability is the key to connection with yourself and others

Ways to practice being vulnerable:

  • Let go of judgement, and replace it with an affirmation. “I love and accept myself just as I am.” When you refuse to judge yourself, it is impossible for others to sit in judgement of you. Your truth and acceptance are powerful.
  • Let go of your reservations, and replace with openness. Your past may have been difficult but your future doesn’t have to be. Open yourself to new experiences and forgive the past to allow vulnerability and the love and joy that accompany it into your life.
  • Let go of your projected image, replace with the authentic YOU. Let yourself be seen and know that you are worth loving! Find your inner peace and calm when you release the expectations of others and follow your own path.

Natalie’s Suggested List:
“The Power of Vulnerability” by Brene Brown… watch her being vulnerable!
“Can You be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable?” by Pamela Madsen… read her suggestions.

You Are Worth Loving

By Natalie Jenkins

You are good enough. You are worth loving.

It’s been about four years since I heard those words in the safety and seclusion of my therapist’s office. Simple statements, but enough to unleash the newest wave of tears. I cried because I wasn’t sure I believed it. I cried because if I could, my healing would begin.

I was in the midst of a messy divorce, my own personal hell. A hell that had me wallowing in self doubt, insecurity, and self-loathing.

I suffered in limbo for two years, unable to release myself and unwilling to trust myself enough to reinvest in creating a new life. I had never failed at anything, how could I fail at this? How could I possibly be good enough and deserve to be happy after this failure? How could my family and friends ever feel I was worth loving again?

Emotionally exhausted, I sought counsel. I was encouraged to learn, to grow, and to reflect. Where did my guilt, my rage, my pain come from? What did I want and what did I need?

The answers to these questions became life changing for me. It doesn’t matter if the answers scared me, surprised me, or confused me. Whether seemingly good or bad, they were mine. I made a choice to learn from them. Until that moment, my life had been relatively conflict-free. I had never been forced to get to know myself, to ask the tough questions and to fearlessly face my personal truth.

I discovered that ignorance of yourself – and of your prevailing intention – is a true tragedy. I chose to stop hiding from myself, and I learned not to sit in judgement of myself or others. You may not be who you think you are, and that’s okay … We are always changing on our journey.

My Reset Retreat journey began when I recognized the compassion, empathy, and extraordinary capacity for learning in three amazing women. We began to share experiences and bond over love, life, and loss. We were shockingly similar and different all at once, but our commonality was wanting to institute a change – in ourselves, our friends, and the world- and knowing that we could. The chemistry and excitement was palpable as we began conceptualizing Reset Retreat- a place to learn, grow, and reflect.

By even reading a bit of our story, you know you are ready to let your real journey begin.

Accept yourself. Forgive yourself. Know that you are good enough. Know that you are worth loving… Reset. Rejuvenate. Reinvent.

This is who I am. This is why I am here today at Reset Retreat.