Dr. Sean Sullivan

September 22, 2015
Dr. Sean Sullivan grew up near Boston and graduated from Harvard University. He became a clinical psychologist and settled in San Francisco where he completed post-doctoral work in Health Psychology at University of California, San Francisco. Dr. Sullivan oversees a performance psychology practice in San Francisco’s Park Presidio and produces mind exercises to help his patients, clients and online community develop inner mastery and achieve personal goals. He also wrote The Mind Master’s Silent Journey and created The 21-Day Mind Master Programs and the #1 iPad self-help books app, The Mind Master’s Map.
In 2015, Dr. Sullivan will publish Be Your Purpose: The Ten Science-based Steps to Stillness. “Step 1 of Be Your Purpose describes my first visit visit to Stillness. Within a few months of that life-changing experience I’d moved across the country to dedicate myself to learning more. Last year, after thirteen years of study and practice, I traveled the world visiting the locations where breakthrough psychology, brain science and inner world masters uncovered each of the ten steps presented in Be Your Purpose. Taking you with me on that epic adventure is the privilege of my life.”
Visit Dr. Sean at: BeYourPurpose.com

Dr. Carol Morgan

December 5, 2014

Editor, ABetterMeMagazine.com

Dr. Carol Morgan is our Editor, but she also wears many other hats. She holds a Ph.D. in Communication from the University of Nebraska, and is a professor at Wright State University. Dr. Carol has a passion for taking her knowledge outside the classroom. Besides being our Editor and a university professor, here is what else she does: Host of A Walk On The WOO Side radio show on BrainSpeak Radio, motivational expert for the Living Dayton TV show, eHow.com video expert, columnist for BrainSpeak Magazine, and an expert writer for various motivational outlets including The Huffington Post.

Dr. Carol has personally taught thousands of people her life-changing strategies in her classrooms, seminars, books, e-courses, videos, articles, as well as on the radio and television. She has seen individuals make great improvements in their lives by applying these skills. She thrives on helping people see new and better ways to experience life.

She has also spent many years presenting her research at professional conferences, as well as doing consulting, training, and workshops for businesses, schools, organizations, and the general public. She has worked with groups of all kinds – from network marketing companies to hostage negotiation teams.

Dr. Carol is also the author of the following books: Radical Relationship Resource: A Guide for Repairing, Letting Go, or Moving On, Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life: 101 Motivational Ideas for Lasting Happiness, and We’re not that Different: Two Sisters’ Religious and Spiritual Journeys.

Stay tuned because our Editor will also be hosting a new video series we will be launching soon: A Better Me TV!

Visit Dr. Carol at: www.drcarolmorgan.com

Dick Sutphen

November 30, 2014

Founder, The Sutphen Corporation & Valley of the Sun Publishing

Dick (Richard) Sutphen,CCHT is the author of the million-copy bestseller, You Were Born Again to Be Together (Simon & Schuster). He has authored 21 New Age books, seven for Simon & Schuster who calls him “America’s Foremost Psychic Researcher.” As a specialist in Human Potential techniques, Past-Life Regression, and Spirit-Contact Therapy®, Richard has a private hypnotherapy practice, and he has trained thousands of people to be professional hypnotists. His radio show on BlogTalkRadio is heard by nearly half a million people a week.

Visit Dick at: www.dicksutphen.org

Dan Munro

November 23, 2014

Founder & Confidence Coach at TheInspirationalLifestyle.com

Dan Munro is an experienced confidence coach who takes his clients through a step-by-step process, using proven psychological methods combined with the strategies of successful people. His areas of expertise include:

– Changing limiting beliefs
– Strategic planning for health, wealth, relationships and more
– Career planning for constant improvement and tips for wealth creation
– Powerful self-motivation techniques to develop ambition

Dan helps people figure out who they want to be,  how they will achieve this,  and also  directs them toward overcoming the mental and environmental obstacles that they feel are preventing them from achieving their goals.

Together with his clients, he develops a blueprint unique to each individual, made up of daily and weekly activities that they can follow to take their lives to the next level and beyond!

Visit Dan at: TheInspirationalLifestyle.com

Dr. LeslieBeth Wish

November 22, 2014

Nationally Recognized Psychologist

Dr. LeslieBeth Wish is a nationally recognized psychologist and licensed clinical social worker #7132, honored for her pioneering work with women’s issues in love, life, work, and family. The National Association of Social Workers has included her on their list of the Fifty who has Contributed to the Profession. She is the subject of biographical entry in many Marquis’ Who’s Who publications.

Her latest self-help, research-based books are Smart Relationships and The Love Adventures of Almost Smart Cookie, the cartoon companion book where you can follow a year of Cookie’s love missteps and learn about yours!

Visit Dr. Wish at www.LoveVictory.com.

New Study Challenges Assumptions About Consciousness & Death

Have you been wondering what really happens to us when we die? Religion says one thing, and scientists say another. So who is right? Does our soul and consciousness live on, or do we cease to exist when we die? This fascinating new study will challenge a lot of the assumptions about death. To read more, click on the link:


Kristi Hoffman

October 16, 2014

Award-winning television host and producer, PBS-TV media personality and business writer, Kristine “Kristi” Hoffman has created, hosted, and produced the first PBS television series of its kind, “Business 360.” “Business 360″ focused on fast-emerging entrepreneurs, new technologies, and Fortune 500 leaders who make an impact in the world of business.

It was on “Business 360″ that Kristi interviewed world leaders, politicians and business executives across the globe, including such dignitaries as Mexico’s President, Vicente Fox, and President of Daimler Chrysler North America, Tom Lasorda. She also has interviewed United States Secretary of the Treasury, John Snow, Governor of Michigan Jennifer Granholm, Governor of Ohio Bob Taft, and international speaker and best-selling author, Martha Rogers, PhD. Her interviews with Corporate CEOs, Presidents, and Senior Vice Presidents include Google, Owens Corning, Dana Corporation, New York City’s famed Physique 57, and Owens-Illinois. She also has interviewed professional athletes, including NBA star Jim Jackson, LPGA golfer Kristy McPherson, and basketball player Melissa Goodall.

Kristi Hoffman has been featured on NPR radio for her upcoming segments and has appeared in numerous cutting-edge publications including Edge magazine (March 2013). Hoffman has won many awards including the Association for Women in Communications Award of Achievement, its Crystal Award, and has been a nominee for The Press Club’s Excellence in Journalism Touchstone Award. She has been named 100 Women of Influence and Outstanding Volunteer of the Year by Girl Scouts of the USA and has been the recipient of the Young Business Leadership’s “20 Under 40 Award.”

Hoffman has been the moderator of many women’s and business summits including Young Presidents Organization (YPO), Susan G. Komen Foundation Breast Health Care Summit, and Girl Scouts Young Women’s Leadership Summit. She was Keynote Speaker for the Ohio Office of the Treasurer’s Women in Business Summit and hosted KeyBank’s 7 Tips 7 Experts 7 Minutes Seminar for Women. Kristi has been a collegiate instructor at Bowling Green State University and a featured guest lecturer at universities throughout the midwest.

Her latest edgy articles, SmartChick Blog, and website feature topics surrounding her upcoming book, “Total Package Chick: A Smart Woman’s Guide to Being More Savvy, Real, and Successful,” and her online Total Package Professional women’s business course series entitled BusinessChick. She also has an online FitChick series for health-savvy women to get healthy inside and out. Kristi truly hopes to motivate and inspire wise women in business and in life. Her online Total Package Interviews feature Corporate Presidents, CEOs, and Founders, as well as professional athletes and inspirational women sharing their success stories.

Kristi has loved being involved with organizations like: The American Red Cross, Susan G. Komen Foundation, The Junior League, Delta Delta Delta sorority, YMCA, and Girl Scouts of the USA. She has been an IDEA-certified fitness instructor, and takes a special interest in physical fitness. She has been involved in the regional initiative to impact childhood obesity rates and is active with the educational efforts associated with severe food allergies in children through the Food Allergy and Anaphylaxis Network (FAAN).

Kristi holds a Master of Science degree from Boston University and a Bachelor of Arts degree from The University of Toledo. She has 16 years of corporate experience in strategic marketing consulting, business-to- business communication, corporate communications, and public relations, much of it in the health care industry. She has been a business columnist and a published writer for national and regional publications. Her writing has been frequently printed in industry publications due to her unique interviews and acumen regarding business development and trends.

Kristi is a public speaker and guest lecturer on topics related to business and life. Her featured topics include: “Creating the Ultimate You: Aligning the Inner and Outer You;” “Becoming a FitChick: Aligning your Body, Brain, and Spirit from the Inside Out;” “Becoming Your Own Total Package Chick;” “Building a Business-Savvy Mind: Stepping Up to your Next Level of Success at Work;” and “Stepping Out of Your Rut and Into Success.” She also speaks on academic topics including: broadcasting, media relations, corporate communications, and public relations. Her community leadership and volunteer boards of trustees commitments include organizations focusing on issues regarding self esteem in girls and young women, youth health and fitness, severe food allergies, and healthy lifestyles.

Kristi is available for Corporate or Personal Success Consulting, and she can be found at:



Pinterest.com/TotalPackageChk, and at her website: TotalPackageProfessional.com or TotalPackageChick.com.

Kristi is married, has two amazing sons who inspire her, and a Siberian cat. She loves golf, modern art, rock music, traveling, and physical fitness.

Try Meditation To Boost Productivity

Meditation – people seem to be talking about it everywhere you go.

Lots of famous and successful people report using meditation on a regular basis to help boost creativity and productivity, but also to help them recover from the effects of stress.

Oprah, Angelina Jolie, Tina Turner, Eva Mendes – these are just a few of the famous people that report using meditation on a regular basis.

There are lots of different types of meditation, and everyone has a specific type they like the most.  Mindfulness meditation, mantra meditation, transcendental meditation, tai chi, yoga – these are just a few of the most popular practices.

If you suffer from stress and/or anxiety, or would just welcome a feeling of calm and focus, you might want to give meditation a try!

Find out more at MayoClinic.com:

Meditation: A simple, fast way to reduce stress

What are YOUR Success Attributes?

By Kristi Hoffman

As a child, I was rather reserved.  I didn’t necessarily know how to assert myself or go after what I wanted.  And I most certainly hadn’t defined what I wanted at that time, as I was busy living in the moment. And like a turtle, I was living under a shell, protected and unaware of the bigger world awaiting me outside of that shell.

It wasn’t until later in life that I realized I needed a plan, a structure, a Chick path to lead me towards greater things yet to reveal themselves.  Things that would foster fulfillment and success, like a rewarding and enjoyable career, healthy lifelong relationships, a fit body, a clear mind.

Today I’m living a Total Package Life where every decision I make is made with the greatest intention of aligning my body, brain, and spirit.  That is a Total Package Life. But it took many steps, many years of experience, an acknowledgement of my talents, strengths and attributes, and much introspection, to get here.  I didn’t necessarily realize it at the time, but I was relying solely on my inside, natural attributes to carry me through…which is a good first step on the Chick path.

Some time back I interviewed Dr. Lucy Gibney, an M.D. and savvy businesswoman who started Lucy’s, Inc., a natural food brand company specializing in snacks that are non-GMO, natural, vegan, gluten free and food-allergy friendly.  Among other things, I asked her what attributes drove her to start her now-successful company (they were in 7000 retail locations in five countries, at the time of my Total Package interview).  In addition to her successful medical career, she said that as a child she was observant, curious, creative, independent, and social.  These attributes, she said, helped her hone her entrepreneurial skills and be successful in her corporation.  She noted that at every step of her career, from M.D. to successful CEO, she kept learning and growing, and building on her core attributes.

Dr. Lucy’s advice makes me ponder how I evolved from a reserved girl into a more assertive public speaker, success coach and lifestyle author.  I realized that I’ve always been driven to succeed and I’ve noticed that when making clear decisions that involve my body, brain, and spirit as a whole, I’ve been able to shine.  What was missing in my younger years was the eye-opening Total Package revelation that I needed to focus on blending my talents, loves, and God-given attributes.  I needed to complete the equation of me.  Like Dr. Lucy, I first had to identify my core skill set.  Only then could I continue traveling down my life path with clarity. I had to keep learning, growing, and focusing on blending my talents and loves.  And with every focused decision on body, brain, and spirit, my Chick path became clearer.  Today, it has evolved into one that’s not only fulfilling and successful, but fun!

Think about, even ask others in your close circles, what your skill set and attributes are. Where do you shine at work? What random compliments do you receive? Attributes may not present themselves fully yet, but they are inside you. In fact, you’ve been honing them for years.  Uncover today what YOUR success attributes are.  Run with them, and use them to shine, grow, and come out of your shell.

19 Symptoms Of Thyroid Malfunction

Diagnosing a thyroid disorder can be challenging. Even when your lab results are “normal,” you can still have thyroid issues. The following article lists 19 symptoms of an improperly working thyroid. If you experience these symptoms, you should contact your doctor and insist that your thyroid levels be checked out. I did and was immediately put on medication. My overall life has improved tremendously!

Read more here…



[Video] Fitness Hacking Can Save You Time!

The word “Hacking” has been used a lot lately!

When someone says that word to you, what do you think of?Hacking your way through a Brazilian Rainforest?

  • What you used to do your hair when having one of THOSE kinds of days?
  • Someone getting into a software program illegally and running amok?
  • A wild fit of coughing?

All of these are, in my opinion, valid uses of the word, but it has taken on a new meaning over the last 30 years or so, especially when paired with the word “life.”

Wikipedia defines life hacking as a productivity trick, shortcut, skill or novelty method to increase productivity and efficiency.  It solves an every day problem in a clever way.

That is why my husband LOVES the lifehacker.com website so much! They present really good information that you can use to make life easier.

And it grows from there – health hacking, fitness hacking, brain hacking – and it is all good stuff in this age of overwhelm and general busyness!

Tim Ferriss, the author of “The 4-Hour Body,” has spent a great deal of his life researching the facts that we have been taught and doing experiments – mostly on himself – on how to do things TOTALLY differently and get unheard of results, really fast.

Check out this short video clip (you can find a longer one on YouTube too, if this makes you want to watch more).

So to recap:

  • The most common approach is rarely the most efficient.
  • Use the minimum effective dose – What is the least amount you can do to get the maximum result in the least amount of time?
  • As detailed in the video, do 1 set to failure for each major muscle group taking 90-120 seconds, slow reps 5 seconds in each direction, 1 time per week per muscle group

I’m going to try that!

If you are interested in this approach, and his other novel suggestions, you may just want to read his book!

Major in One of These To Make Big Bucks

You spend a lot of time and money going to college – or paying for your kid(s) to go, and time worrying about them!

After all that time in school, finally graduation day comes and it’s time to put those skills to work and look for a job.

Not everyone that gets a degree will find it easy to get a job, and those that do may have to settle for fewer dollars than they hoped for.

So what are the best majors for both finding a job, and making a lot of money?

Think STEM – science, technology, engineering and math.

And not only do jobs in these areas tend to start off higher, they continue to rise faster than their counterparts in culinary arts, elementary education and exercise science, to name a few.

Obviously, no one wants to go to school to study something they are not interested in and there is more to education than how many dollars you can make when you get out.

But, in case you are interested, here are the top ten degrees that make the most money, along with starting salaries:

Petroleum engineering, $98,000
Chemical engineering, $67,500
Nuclear engineering, $66,800
Electrical engineering, $63,400
Computer engineering, $62,700
Aerospace engineering, $62,500
Mechanical engineering, $60,100
Materials science and engineering, $60,100
Industrial engineering, $59,900
Computer science, $58,400

For the mid-career pay that someone could expect after working in the field for 15 years, check out the credit.com blog: http://blog.credit.com/2013/08/10-college-majors-with-the-best-starting-salaries/

The Amazing Power of Rest!

You can tell when you are running out of steam. Your thinking gets fuzzy, maybe a couple of things you really wanted to get done slip out of your head.

Given that, it isn’t too surprising that rest will help you to boost your creativity. All brain functions work better when they are rested.

I used to burn the candle at both ends and there is a big price to pay for that in productivity and health. I thought I was just trying to get more done!

Not so much…

That is one of the reasons practicing some form of meditation can be so helpful. Doing busy things like going out with friends or going hiking is certainly healthy and gives you a break from work, but to get true rest is different.

Rest will counter stress, impacting all 40,000 genes in your body and inducing chemical changes in your body that will lower blood pressure and heart rate, reduce inflammation, and revitalize your brain.

Naps will certainly help you rest, and are a great practice.

But even better is the practice of Yoga Nidra (yogic sleep).

Yoga Nidra is a progressive guided meditation, and when practiced for 10 minutes can be equal to 3-4 hours of sleep! It will trigger the relaxation response, allowing any feelings of stress and anxiety to slip away.

It has been used to help soldiers cope with PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).

To find out more about the benefits of restful practices, click here.

Slow down and welcome periods of silence into your days. You will be amazed at how much better you will feel, and how much more you will accomplish!

If you would like to try Yoga Nidra for yourself, these tracks can help guide you through the process.

How To Go Grocery Shopping for Radiant Health

I worked with a man who was training for the Tour de France a couple of years ago, and not only did he spend a LOT of time on his bike, he was extremely careful about everything that he ate.  He did all his grocery shopping at Whole Foods, which told me he probably made more money than me…  Not what I would call discount shopping!

When I made a comment about how pricey it was to shop there, he was amazed that I felt that way, and was quick to point out that there was a lot you could get there that was at least close to what you might pay at your local Safeway.

Next time I visited Whole Foods I did a little more looking around, and found that he was correct – there really were many items that were healthier but comparably priced!

Lesson learned was that you could shop for healthier items and not have to spend a fortune!

Paula Owens, nutritionist and author, shares some of her grocery shopping tips in a recent article.

The first is one that I have heard for years – shop for REAL FOOD, not processed and sugary.  These items are usually found around the perimeter of the store and not in the center aisles (there are a few good items there too, like olive oil, nut butters and coffee/tea.

Real food excludes items that are low-fat and fat-free (generally nasty and unsatisfying!) products that come with a generous amount of artificial sweeteners and other chemicals not naturally occurring in real-for-sure food.

She also recommends organic as much as possible, claiming that organic produce is much healthier, and that those that eat organic tend to have better immunity, less body fat, and get better sleep.  If your budget doesn’t allow you to make those choices across the board, trying to pick organic eggs, meats, and specific fruits and vegetables that tend to be the highest in pesticides.

These include some of my favorites – apples, celery, bell peppers, spinach and cucumbers. She has a list of 12 that she calls the Dirty Dozen.

Read labels and avoid those containing artificial ingredients, but if you stick to the real food recommendation above, these will drop right out!

Use a list when you shop and stick to it!! For best results, have a healthy snack prior to your shopping trip to reduce temptation.

For other recommendations, read the entire article here.

Take Advantage of Summer Footwear: Sandals Are Hot!

One of the best things about summer is the increase in options for footwear: Sandals!

Oh yeah, in the winter you can wear boots, but how many different kinds of boots are there really? Sandals give you an opportunity to explore different styles and colors, and you can do it at a significantly lower price than most other types of footwear.

They also need to be replaced much more often than other types of shoes, so it is a good choice for trying something new and a little wild. If you end up not liking it as much as you thought, you’ll most likely be replacing it within a year.

The sandals that you choose can totally change the look of an outfit!

You can choose just about any heel size this year and still be in style, especially if it includes some metallics. Of course, you can’t go wrong with corals, bright blue or a wide variety of mint shades.

Wedges seem to be particularly good this summer, and are at their trendiest when mixing a print along with a couple of other colors.

You want to be sure not to wear a clunky sandal with a wispy dress, or thin-strapped sandals with heavier attire.  And be sure that you take your own feet and legs into account when choosing your sandals – it isn’t all about being trendy. You want to make sure that the sandals you choose will look good on you. Ankle straps will make your legs looks shorter, so if you are already short to begin with you might want to give them a miss!

Learn more about Pittsburgh Fashion writer JoAnne Klimovich Harrop’s advice at Sandals step up your summer footwear.

And if you are in the market for a new pair of sandals, check out out these metallic gladiators!

Why LinkedIn Should Be Part of Your Professional Strategy

It’s hard to believe that Social Media is relatively new. There was a time when there was no Facebook, no Twitter.

Did you know that the time people spent participating in social media increased by 37% in just one year, from 88 billion minutes in July of 2011 to 121 billion minutes in July of 2012.

Who MEASURES this stuff?

Still, it has become a significant way to exchange information and keep in touch. As much as I resisted Facebook, I have been very grateful for the opportunity to reconnect with – and stay more connected with – people that I knew in High School and that I have worked with along the way.

But LinkedIn is something that I still haven’t felt much of a draw to. I do have a profile, and I am connected there with many people that I have worked with in the past. I probably login once every three months or so!

But I came across an article at 3plusinternational.com recently about how it is important to your career to put some time and energy into building an up-to-date profile on LinkedIn. It is a great networking tool, and shouldn’t be overlooked as an important way to get your name out there in front of possible employers.

ALL recruiters look there at some point when they are looking to hire new blood, and you want your presence there to be known and impressive.

They recommend having a powerful summary and 3 success stories under each position, in order to show that you are proud of what you have achieved and are willing to share that information.

LinkedIn has over 200 million users around the world!

They are holding an eWorkshop on how to Leverage LinkedIn to Advance Your Career on July 15th, if you are interested in that or just want to read more about their recommendations around LinkedIn, check it out here.

Would You Want To Know 3-4 Hours Ahead Of Time If You Were About To Have A Heart Attack?

Technology is advancing at a rapid pace, as you know. It is virtually impossible to keep up with it!

But there are some particularly interesting new technologies in the health and fitness category that you may find extremely interesting.

MeMD.me has created an info graphic to show you what these new technologies are and what they do.

Just as an example of what is included here, there is one called the IronIC Systems Heart Attack Detecting Implant, developed by scientists in Switzerland.  This is the smallest medical implant with multiple sensors created so far at 14 millimeters long.  It can measure a molecule in the blood called troponin, which is something that is release 3-4 hours before a heart attack.

This device can actually measure up to 5 different substances in the blood, and is undergoing extensive testing at the moment, but it could be available in 4 years or so.

Now that is incredibly cool!

And furthermore, people have a 50% increased odds of survival from a heart attack if they get treatment within the first hour.

Think a 3-4 hour warning might help you or a loved one get there on time?

Oh, and did I mention this device is about the size of an ant?


Other technologies include devices that will monitor your vitals signs like heart rate, blood pressure and body temperature – some can even check your hydration level (I need that one!).

Check out the other tech on this REALLY interesting infographic from MeMD.me – this is tech you will want to know about!.

8 New Technologies Revolutionizing Health and Fitness

Image is a ribbon representation of the human cardiac troponin core complex.

Obese Children Do NOT Want To Discuss Their Weight!

Everyone knows that as a country, the United States has a weight problem. If we wanted further proof of this, the American Medical Association has now classified obesity as a disease.

Over 1/3 of adults are considered to be obese, and 17% of children and teens (there are three times as many obese children as there were in 1980).

The medical costs associated with this were up to $147 billion in 2008, according to U.S. News and World Reports

With costs continuing to rise, you can be sure it is more than that today!

It is particularly concerning that there are so many young people that are overweight. What can be done to start decreasing those numbers?

A recent study by the University of Minnesota says that the best results will not be realized by having their parents talk to them about their weight.

In the study, 2800 you people were asked about their eating behaviors, and when their mothers talked to them about their weight they were 64% more likely to try dieting or unhealthy weight loss tactics than those whose moms simply talked to them about healthy eating (40%).

This really doesn’t prove that children who have had discussions about weight with their parents actually pursue these unhealthy behaviors as a result – there are many other factors that were not looked at as part of this study.

But doesn’t it make more sense to provide a good role model for our children by eating healthy food as a rule? That doesn’t mean never having chocolate cake again, but following a good nutritional eating plan most of the time provides a good example for them to follow.

Not having a lot of junk food in the house also makes it easier for them to not down that bag of chips!

There are so many really tasty, healthy meals that we can serve our children. Most of us are busy and don’t have a lot of time to cook, but meals during the week do not have to be elaborate. With some planning you can have what you need on hands, and the meal doesn’t have to take hours to fix.

Making sure your children understand what is healthy, and providing ways for them to eat healthy food regularly, works much better to help them become healthy-weight adults than shaming them by talking about their weight.

Image by Walter Siegmund, used under the GNU Free Documentation License.

Bad Relationship Advice is Like a Pyramid Scheme

I saw that line in Uptown Magazine, in an article written by Cassia Jones about all the bad advice you get from your friends about relationships, and just had to laugh out loud!

It is all about how if you really want to stay single, just get dating and relationship advice from your friends!

Have you ever looked at it that way?

There are many so-called friends out there that have their own agenda for your time, and they are not always cheering you on in whatever relationship you happen to be in at the moment. Or maybe their own relationship isn’t so great, but they want to tell you what to do in yours?

The pyramid comes into play as bad relationship advice gets handed down from one person to another – sort of like playing gossip. The advice starts out bad and ends up getting worse as it is passed along down the slippery slope.

Laura Doyle, a Relationship Expert and host of her own radio show, has a weekly award she calls “The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award,” which in itself sort of suggests that there is a LOT of really bad advice that you have to wade through to come up with the one that it the worst!

An example of this is “the advice” that to stay married you should have a weekly date night.  Yeah, that is going to help it a lot when you are not enjoying each other’s company to begin with!

So why is it that we want our friends to confirm our choice? Do we not have enough confidence in our own judgment, in being able to discern whether this is someone that we can find joy with, forge a partnership with?

I know women – married and single alike – that spend hours upon hours discussing their relationship with their group of friends and they tear the poor guys apart, one after the other.

Perhaps it makes them feel better about themselves to heap disapproval on another?

Now, there are lots of friends that do not mean any harm when they give you advice on your relationship, and they may even notice something you had not. What they say could be helpful.

But in the end, it is up to you to trust your feelings about this person and whether the time investment is worth it.

You are the only one that knows what feels right to you…

Can What You Wear Sway Those Around You?

In many offices today, business casual is the often the flavor of the day – in many cases with much more emphasis on the casual part!

Many offices used to be be more insistent on dressing in a traditional business-like way, with women required to wear suits, sometimes even insisting on darker colors with closed shoes. Stockings were a must. This “Business Professional” look is still a good idea if you are going on an interview or visiting another office.

Every office has its own code, and it makes sense to dress in a similar way to the others that you work with.

But have you ever noticed that those in charge are often dressed a notch up from the rest of the office? If you walk into an office, it wouldn’t take long to identify those in charge just by observing the appearance they present.

It makes sense based on the principles of rapport building that dressing in a similar way to the managers and executives can give them a sense that you are more “one of them,” and thus your opinion and input could be more valuable to them.

Now, it should go without saying that you also have to be someone that does a good job, is reliable, etc. Just looking good on its own won’t get you very far!

But it sure can make a difference, other factors being equal.

Judie Schwartz, who writes the Style Matters column in The Colorado Statesman uses the example of dressing like lobbyists. These people influence others for a living, so observing how they dress can be pretty illuminating!

If you want to have influence in the office, be sure how you dress isn’t too distracting. Read all of Judie’s principles of professional dress at coloradostatesman.com 

What is the Fastest Growing Area of Employment?

The U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics says that one of the fastest growing areas of employment is within Networking Technology.  CNN Money agrees with that assessment, predicting it as the number one area to see double digit growth between now and 2014!

Ahhh, computers!

What kind of opportunities do people have when they complete a Networking Technology program?

Jobs such as data entry and computer operators to Network and computer administrators and analysts. You learn how to provide technical support to both hardware and software systems.

[box type=”success” align=”alignleft” ]Computer jobs aren’t for everyone, for sure, but they can provide a pretty decent income and if you love problem solving and technology it could be right up your alley![/box]

Gary Coman, of Cisco Corporate Affairs, shares some of the reasons that Networking Technology courses should be included within the curriculum of anyone training for or switching to a different career.

1. While you do need basic math and reading skills, you don’t have to be really great at advanced mathematics

2. With networking skills you can get an edge on your job possibilities, as there is a need for people up to speed with technology in every sector imaginable.

3. There are standards for these skills that apply worldwide.  So you can go anywhere you want – the world is your oyster, as they say!

Find out more about why Gary is so enthusiastic about this career path and the Cisco Networking Academy, for which he is currently the director of engineering, by clicking to his article here.

Multitasking: A Modern Delusion

Are you an awesome multi-tasker?

Women have a reputation at being much better at it than men. And it seems to be the only option as we try to get everything done that needs to be attended to, if we still want to have a little time left at the end of the day to sleep.

But there has been a bunch of research lately that shows that it is usually counter-productive and harmful to our health.

For one thing, what we consider to be working on many things at once actually is a switch from one thing to another to another and back…  All of that switching isn’t automatic and a lot of the effort we expend goes into those transitions.

It would take LESS time to work on one thing until it is done, then work on the next thing till it is done, etc.

And let’s talk about quality of work….  There is a really good chance that with your brain madly trying to keep up with the task at hand in a given moment, your error rate is going to go way up.  You just can’t catch as much when your attention is so chopped up.

And studies show that this only gets worse as we get older…

When our attention is jumping around – answering texts when out with friends, or answering emails while you are eating – doesn’t do anything good for our relationships OR our waistlines, either!

Signals coming from our friends, partners, and our own bodies can be missed, causing hurt feelings and overeating.

Amanda MacMillan shares more reasons to stop multitasking in a recent Huffington Post article.

I have found that the benefits of multitasking are not real, and I proved it to myself with my pedometer. You see, there is an exception to almost every rule and walking is one of the things you CAN do while doing something else!

When I started getting up from my computer and walking while I was in conference calls  (which I do a LOT in my job), I not only continued to get all my work done – I remembered what the calls were about and was able to contribute more in the discussions.

Not answering emails on those calls, and not researching problems while “listening,” actually helped me to do my job BETTER!

The Way of Play

We live in difficult times. Ask anyone, and they would most likely agree with that statement.

The economy has been improving, but will it continue to so?  What about the job market? Housing?

Technology changes by the minute, and the rate of change is exponential.  It is easy to feel like you will be left in the dust.

Every time you turn on the news, doom and gloom seems to be everywhere. Catastrophes abound…

How can we keep ourselves from living in fear and anxiety when the world is in such a state?

The first order of business is to break state. Continuing to focus on negativity, and the possibilities of more, just keeps you in a never ending state of stress.

That is one of the reasons why exercise can be so good for you. The chemistry that is produced by exercise counteracts that of anxious thoughts.

If you choose to participate in some type of sport it can be even better, as you need to focus on the game at hand – definitely a state breaker!

Which brings us to play.

Playing helps us to balance out the stress and anxiety more effectively than just “exercise.” In a recent post by Charlie Hoehn on his blog he talks about how the anxiety produced by working too many hours and fearing imminent disaster was only put to rest once he started to allow play back into his life.

Get up and move around everyday, get outside, exert yourself, walk away from the news, HAVE FUN!!

Take Charlie’s advice, along with that of several famous people that he quotes, who incorporated the spirit of play in all of their endeavors:

“A lack of play should be treated like malnutrition: it’s a health risk to your body and mind.” – Stuart Brown

“I never did a day’s work in my life. It was all fun.” – Thomas Edison

“Play is the highest form of research.” – Albert Einstein

“The only way to do great work is to love what you do.” – Steve Jobs

“Without work, all life goes rotten, but when work is soulless, life stifles and dies.” – Albert Camus

If you have forgotten to play, like so many of us have, take the time to start adding it back into your life.  You will never look back!

Stay Cool as a Cucumber Through The Summer Months!

It is that time of the year again – the lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer (ok, well it FEELS like summer even though technically it is another week away…)

In most places the weather has been pretty darn hot, and we tend to turn to ice cold lite beer or a skinny cow ice cream bar to help us cool down.

As strange as it may seem, those are not necessarily the best choices to make for cooling you off!

Because of the way these items react inside your body, they are likely to make you feel hotter in the long run!

Didn’t see that one coming did you?

Better choices would be fresh fruits and vegetables with a high water content. Think melons of all varieties, citrus fruits, and salad vegetables. Lettace, cucumbers, radishes, celery – these are all loaded with water that can help cool you right down.

“Cool as a cucumber” is an accurate statement!

Drinking a lot of water will also help keep you from getting dehydrated as well as cooling you off!

Traditional Chinese Medicine would concur – they classify these raw foods as food with cooling properties, they clear heat, flush out toxins and increase body fluids.

And a nice vegetable or fruit salad won’t heat up your kitchen!

For even better results, make a salad dressing that contains something spicy like ginger or a little red pepper. While you may think of these as “hot” they can make you sweat, which will cool you off!

The combination of cool, raw veggies and spicy dressing will cool you off both inside and out!

Easily Lose Weight and Improve Health with 5:2

My new favorite thing is The Fast Diet.

I came across the book back in March, and the title caught my attention as I have dabbled with fasting from time to time.

Written by Dr. Michael Mosley and Mimi Spencer, from the UK, it presents a way of eating they call “Intermittent Fasting.”

Turns out it is not actually FASTING in the traditional sense of the word, hence the Intermittent part of it.

What you do is reduce the amount of calories you consume 2 days a week to 25% of what you would normally eat. You may hear this plan referred to as the 5:2 – five days of regular eating and two days of intermittent fasting.

That works out to 500 calories for women, 600 for men (which figures – they ALWAYS get to eat more!). On the other days you can eat what you want, although the recommendation is to not overeat on those other days.

Most women will lose about a pound a week on this plan.

There are even more exciting aspects to this way of eating than just losing weight though.

Here are a few of the benefits you may realize when following this plan:

  • Enhance brain function (think less brain fog)
  • Reduced risk of stroke
  • Improvement in Blood Pressure
  • Increased sensitivity to insulin
  • Reduction of inflammatory markers – this can mean reduction in chronic pain, arthritis, etc.
  • Reduction of cholesterol levels

Once you try it a few days, it is a pretty easy plan to follow. And the day after a fast day, everything tastes better than it did before – you really don’t find yourself wanting to pig out just because you can!

The book has been on the best seller list for many weeks – I encourage you to check it out, if you have not already done so.

Find out more on their website at http://thefastdiet.co.uk/

Rearrange Your Rooms, Improve Your Relationships

Feng Shui is an ancient Chinese art that deals with placement of buildings or items within the buildings in a way that will facilitate the flow of Qi (Ch’i).

It has become very popular in recent years, and there are many different forms being practiced. One of the more popular forms in the United States is called Black Sect (sometimes people refer to it as Black Hat), where the orientation is based on the location of the entrance  into your home or room.

The theory is that health, money and love can come easier to you when the energy can flow harmoniously.

So what can you do to enhance your love, or relationship, energy?

You need to focus on the Relationship Area of your home.

As you stand at your front door the farthest corner to the right on all floors is the most powerful place to concentrate.

The same map can be superimposed over each room to find the right corners in those rooms, too.

Dailytransformations.com gives us some tips for following good Feng Shui principles to be sure the stuff that we have in those corners is the “right stuff.”

Feng Shui for Relationships

1. Think in pairs. You don’t want to have 1 or 3 candles, you want an even number of items.

2. Be sure if you have plants in that space that they are healthy, and again it is best to have even numbers of plants, not odd.  A vase of flowers? Put 2 stems in the vase.

3. Photo’s of the two of you (but not of your family), or artwork with a love theme are excellent.

4. Clutter, business or self-help books, any item that isn’t fully functioning need to be cleared out of that area.

5. Color is important too – think warm colors but not in excess (think sizzle as opposed to burn out!).

6. TV’s don’t belong in the bedroom:) Regardless of what corner they may be located…

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