By Anisha Joshi
Being a woman in the 21st century isn’t always easy. People gaze you, they judge you, they weaken you, they criticize you, and can even make you feel guilty for your own existence. But it is you who needs to define yourself. Your power lies in being a woman who is so internally strong that nothing can break her.
Being a woman is all about being responsible – being responsible for how people perceive you. It is not defined by the clothes you wear, but how you wear your own attitude. Yes, you got it … the right ATTITUDE is the word that needs to be defined from your own perspective. If you think you are strong, you truly become so. The inner strength is the most important attribute that you must have. It is your life, and you are the Royal Mistress who has every right to live your life the way you want. Nothing can stop you from being the woman you want to be.
Here are 10 reasons why women need to have inner strength:
1. People will say things about you – you just can’t stop them.
My grandmother reminds me of a popular cliché: “If a woman walks fast, they say she a procrastinator. And if a woman walks slowly, they say she walks as if she has no energy and enthusiasm.” Hence, people will always say something about you. Whether you pay attention to compliments or take the criticism constructively, it is all your choice. The truth is you can’t change the people. But you also don’t need to change yourself. You just need to be strong enough to ignore their perceptions and move ahead in life. Ignore a few things, accept certain constructive criticisms ,and follow your joy.
2. Situations and circumstances will not always be in your favor.
There will be situations in life which you detest. After working very hard, you may not always get the desired results. Don’t be disheartened. Continue your life’s journey with a smile and remind yourself that “even this will pass.” Just stay strong when things are not in favor.
3. People of opposite values may often be your family members/office colleagues.
You may hate onion pizzas, but the person who is right next to you in the office may order them daily for his lunch. Should you be irritated and complain daily?? No, certainly not. You need to adjust. This trait of adjusting to people comes only when you are internally strong. People who cherish the happiest relationships are the ones who are flexible and internally strong.
4. Every man will define you differently, so stay intact with your own definition.
A guy at school called “Miss G.” fat. Another guy at college called her a geek. There was a person in the office who felt she was stubborn. Can you imagine the plight of such a woman if she allows herself to be influenced by everyone’s opinions?? Certainly she will be declared mentally unfit. You just can’t be a football for others’ opinions. You must have the clarity regarding who you are. If you know yourself, you will stay intact with your own definition.
5. Gender bias or the taboos of the society can’t be the reason for your failure in life.
Oprah Winfrey had to bear sexual atrocities in her early days. She was rejected in auditions. But this didn’t stop her. She did all that she could and tried again. Today, I am quoting her as an inspiration for you. Every woman has some set of limitations gifted to her by the society, family or maybe even religion, but those limitations are so small when the sky is the limit.
6. You need to be yourself – unique and special the way you are.
Over a period of time, people will come into your life and will try to change your beliefs just for their sake. There will be emotional or social blackmails too, but you must accept and embrace yourself. You must learn to celebrate your existence. Love yourself so much that nothing in the world can make you feel inferior. If you love yourself, you start loving your life, too.
7. There will be times in life when you will be standing alone.
Sometimes, the toughest battles of life are fought alone. Only these battles provide you with strength. You may have to overcome a financial crisis or may have to move ahead with your ambitions. Just fight your battle with valour, even if you are alone. If it is required, God will send an angel, but you need to be strong. Be fearless.
8. Unexpected and unprecedented results may be deprived from your consolidated and confident actions.
Life is an unexpected and unprecedented tale. Do you ever enjoy watching a movie if you already know the story? In fact, many people don’t even watch a thriller if the end is known to them. Same is the case with life. Life is a thriller, tragedy, romantic tale with many emotions. Have an open mind and an open heart too, to accept the results. This is the true beauty of life … you can predict and expect everything!!
9. You need to stay strong if a relationship doesn’t work and then collapses.
A person either enters your life to stay there or to teach you a lesson. It is perfectly fine and normal to misunderstand a person. If you happen to do so, you aren’t the only one. But take care of yourself. Go and throw a “break up party” and welcome your single status with pride because the past relationship has made you mature – and you have a new life lesson. Isn’t that a great thing?
10. You are beyond this body, name, and position – you are an eternal energy.
Yes, that is the ultimate truth about your life. So there isn’t any point in being in fear. The quantum physics has proved that our thoughts too, are vibrations and have a frequency. You have the power to create your life. Be the creator of your future. You can create only when you have the clarity of thoughts. You have the clarity of vision when you are internally strong.