Oh, to be a ‘happy person.’ You know the sort: always smiling, sharing, and spreading positivity wherever they go.
Fortunately, ‘happy people’ are not a separate species to us regular folk, nor are they members of a wonderful albeit creepy cult. They are simply those among us who naturally manage to avoid indulging in negative habits. They may have had a fantastic childhood during which they were taught how to manage life and its problems in the best possible way, or maybe happiness just comes naturally to them, who knows! What’s important to know is that to be one of the ‘happy people’ you need only change a few habits in your life!
All you need to know is that happy people often spread kindness, joy, optimism, positivity, and as a result, they have loving relationships.
However, here are six things they certainly do NOTÂ do:
1. Compare Themselves To Others
‘Comparison is the death of joy.’ – Mark Twain
Despite the fact that someone may own a bigger house than you or their family may seem happier, that does not make you less of a person. Comparing yourself, your possessions, and your quality of life to others’ is the quickest possible way to create a false sense of inadequacy and unquenchable jealousy – which are just completely unnecessary and can make you deeply unhappy.
Make sure you mind your own business and be grateful for what you have. We are not all perfect, but we are all equally worthy of self-confidence, self-love, and happiness.
2. Seek Validation And Happiness From Others
‘What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.’ – Confucius
External validation is nowhere near as important as internal peace and happiness. Once you begin measuring yourself based on other people’s expectations, opinions, or perspectives, you become a false identity formed from the outside, rather than who you’re genuinely supposed to be from the inside. Respect and love yourself above all others and remember: no one has the right to judge you and you do not need permission from others to happy! You are your own responsibility; no one else has control over your life but you.
3. Judge Others
‘The least amount of judging we can do, the better off we are.’ – Michael J. Fox
When we judge others, we are actually portraying our innermost inferiorities, anxieties, envy, and anger. Happy, content people do not need to indulge in vicious, relentless gossiping or judgment of others because they see we are all equal and worthy of respect.
4. Hold On To Resentment
‘Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.’ – Gautama Buddha
When we let go of resentment and forgive, we do not condone the actions of those who have hurt us, we simply stop letting them take energy from out lives. Wounds cannot be healed if they remain open, so instead, you need to transform that negative energy into something positive and congratulate yourself on your strength for letting go.
5. Stay In Negative Spaces Or Situations
‘Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions.’ – Will Smith
Negative spaces include any situations – emotional, physical, or mental – within which there is an overwhelming negative energy. This may be coming from an environment or a person, but either way, it’s time to get rid of it! It is not selfish of you to want to leave a place or person behind; it’s a form of self-love.
When you are alone, ensure that you create a positive, happy environment where negative thoughts are unwelcome. As this becomes easier, attempt to keep this attitude no matter where you are or whom you are with.
6. Avoid Challenges
‘You cannot find peace by avoiding life.’ – Virginia Woolf
Rather than allowing tasks, assignments, challenges, or personal problems become a burden, happy people often face their demons head on. Tackling issues rather than letting them stagnate, grow, or linger will help you to avoid unnecessary stress and anxiety as well as allowing you to boost your self-confidence and a sense of peace.
